How to get acquainted with the Internet. Brief instructions on exploring the Internet, or how to turn online communication into a serious relationship

Mild rhythm of life sometimes interferes with the construction of relationships with society. In the modern world, the circle of communication of adults is limited to the working team and a pair of three long-standing comrades. How to be the one who is in dire need of new acquaintances? There is a way out - trying happiness on the Internet.

Communication on the network is gaining momentum day by day. The number of users of all kinds of services will multiply in geometric progression. If 5 years ago it was considered to seek to seek friends and love on special portals, today is increasingly on the question: "How did you meet?", - You can hear: "Paid in the chat."

However, as any other interaction with people, communication over the Internet has its own nuances. The lack of visual contact encourages unscrupulous visitors to sites in reality. Many manage to create an alternative personality.

In the chat, a man can issue an ambitious alpha male from himself, and in reality to sit on the neck of the parents. In the photo, the girl is nimph marine (Glory Photoshop), and lively more like a saleswoman in the Soviet glass.

How not to get to you? The editorial office of the magazine "The World of Ideas" asked the Council from the Experts of the social network "Photosten". We were given comprehensive recommendations, how to get acquainted on the Internet without risk.

1. Decide what you want

To begin with, it is important to clearly formulate your desires. Mostly people who are familiar with the Internet can be divided into 4 groups. Their goals:

• expansion of the circle of communication or the search for new friends;
• collaboration with people having similar interests;
• flirt and intimate relationships without obligations;
• the desire to create a family.

Analysts "Photorads" conducted a survey among users. Results in the Pooh and dust dispel the myth, which seems that some perverts live on dating services:

Only 14% of men seek to find a sexual partner. Women are not at all interested in frivolous relationships (none of the respondents made a mark in the "Sex" column). The lion's share of users is purposefully looking for a soul mate. 40% of men are configured to serious relationships and marriage. Among women, this indicator is slightly higher, it is 48%. 13% of men and 9% of women are looking for friends and a company. This figure is constantly growing. Among the new users, a ratio of 15% and 20%, respectively. They are only interested in communication, but over time, the benchmarks are not excluded.

2. Choose a reliable dating service

The quality of the site can be independently evaluated for a number of criteria. For your convenience, we accounted for a check list for which you can easily "strike" any dating service.

• free registration

Among serious dating sites there are certain rules of decency. A reliable portal will never charge funds for registration. You will provide a free opportunity to place a questionnaire and test the resource functionality. Only fraudsters demand money without showing "product".

Recently, many pacifier sites have appeared, on which there are no active users and / or they are filled with bots, fake questionnaires. To check, it often has to go through tiring registration. Sometimes the owners even demand payment (a kind of "membership fee" for participation in the service). Therefore, trust only the well-known and proven portals that have good reviews.

• Protection of personal information

Usually, after filling in the questionnaire, you will be offered to familiarize yourself with the terms of confidentiality. Do not neglect reading such an important document. The resource has no right to transfer your data to third parties, monitor your personal correspondence. You should have the opportunity to put limited access to the questionnaire. Often good services are not allowed to view profiles to unregistered users. It is desirable that a ban on indexing photo in search engines.

• Filtering candidates

A convenient filters must be built into the portal, allowing unscrewing inappropriate candidates. The more they are, the faster you will define a preferred circle of communication.

Consider, many services differ in dating targets. If the service is specifically designed to search for a serious relationship, then there will fail to find anything else. And vice versa

• Quality and Number of questionnaires

The reliability of dating site is directly related to the quality of the questionnaire. The abundance of fake profiles can be easily calculated by the patterns represented in them. Scammers are not with the hands of hiring a large state of copywriters to fill fake accounts or pay them big money "for a creative approach". Therefore, the questionnaires on bad services are similar to one another.

A good dating site immediately makes it clear that the visitor has every chance to get acquainted with the right people. For example, you can immediately feel the activity of other users.

• Content moderation

On serious sites there are systems for tracking unacceptable content and professional user support service. In profiles it is impossible to lay out intimate photos, animated avatars, hide behind celebrities. In total chats, forums, discussions are forbidden to use mat, calling Knasilia, to disperse an interethnic distribution, advertise sex services.

3. Fill out the profile

This step is incredibly important. The correctness of the profile filling directly affects your success. Regardless of the purpose of acquaintance, you need to tell detail about yourself. It is better not to skip the Counts of the questionnaire, and consistently respond to all questions. Keep a sense of measure: Too short phrases are forced to doubt your sincerity, and Long Opets - allow you to think about your adequacy.

Watch on objectively. Do not embellish the facts, the truth will still pop up. Be sure to specify your real age, marital status, the purpose of acquaintance, the city of residence. Avoid inhabable expressions, sexual ambiguities and explicit negative in the expression of your own views on life.

The first impressions of users are made by photography profile, its selection needs to be paid special attention. The face must be open (without dark glasses). Girls are not worth using their photos in a swimsuit, frank outfit or displaying them in a frivolous pose. Visitors to dating sites love eyes, so it is better to download several different pictures. On the "Photosrane" you can create whole albums. Users who have a lot of photos on the page cause more confidence.

4. Think of health about professional photography

People dreaming of creating a family, I want to offer yourself to potential contenders for your hand and heart. Many are recorded on a professional photo session for the sake of a beautiful profile on a dating site. Plus this step is obvious - "Journal" page and concealment of flaws.

Photoshop serves everything, and visitors are not. Let us give the floor to our expert:

It is no secret that people people look much better than in reality. Glossy photos like, but not every user will believe that a real person sits behind her. There is again the question of trust. If there are professional and ordinary photos, then there are no questions. The optimal option is a professional photo, but not in the studio, but, for example, at a kind of event.

5. Write to the person you like

In the real world, it is customary that a man should take the first step in the virtual universe gender borders erased. A woman can write to the user who belongs without fears. The worst outcome - he will not answer or turn out to be strange. In the first case, you should not be disappointed and pouring oils into the fire of our complexes. In the second situation - just stop chatting. Especially persistent enter the blacklist.

If you are confused to write the first, then you can get acquainted in a different way. For example, in the "Photorar" there are many social games and services for dating.

6. Learn to cut off dubious candidates

You do not need to be a certified psychologist to recognize a dubious candidate at first glance. It is enough to carefully look into the page. Among tens of thousands of profiles, there will be a fraudster or pathological liar. Our task is to protect you from trouble. So, if you find one or more of the moments below, then refrain from communicating with such a person.

• Obvious overbust

Exaggeration of their achievements is a sign of insincerity. Genius, millionaires, philanthropes are found only in the movies. Successful people rarely strife the diffilams of their loved ones.

• Grammatical errors

Naturally, we are not grammar-Nazi and calmly treat the pair-triple of missed commas. However, elementary rules should be followed. Writing Libe-Shi, Cha-sch, Chu-Shch is given to Mother's Milk. Errors in obvious things indicate a lack of intelligence. An exception is except foreigners.

• Family status

As a rule, married men who are looking for girls "to communicate in an informal setting", hide their official status. In the column "marital status" they indicate "single", "in active search". If it is important for you, then it is better to specify the degree of freedom in personal correspondence.

We must admit that some men, having a relationship or family, want to change the partner and find real love. Therefore, even the fact that your partner is not alone, should not put a cross on it. Most often, such men are still looking for needless sexual relations, but not always. A married man does not speak the phone in the evening, behaves strange, takes a children's chair in the car.

• Unlicacy photos

We have already discussed the topic of professional shooting. Now let's touch ordinary photos. Avoid people hiding their appearance for avatars and fuzzy personnel. The profile cover should provide an opportunity to learn a person at a personal meeting. Dark glasses, unsuccessful angles, masks, photo editor filters - reason to doubt the trustworthiness of the candidate.

In men who are looking for only easy acquaintance, as a rule, an unfilled profile and the corresponding photo is loaded (in underwear, a frank position, etc.)

• Specific manner of communication

You should alert:

• attempts to derive personal information;
• requests to transfer money;
• interest in extreme sex;
• requirements send intimate photos;
• unreasonable resentment;
• jealousy in the first days of communication;
• constant complaints and / or boasting;
• rudeness;
• a desire to immediately see him / her at home.

7. Immediately reject dangerous offers.

Do not waste your time on correspondence that can apply moral or material harm. Separate individuals can be creeped away and force to agree to anything. The expert strongly does not recommend:

If the couple lives in one city, then you should not delay the first meeting more than 2-3 weeks. A virtual acquaintance in reality may be completely different person, so nothing is worth waste time. The first date is best scheduled in a public place. The perfect option is a cafe. If the young man does not like it, you can finish coffee and say goodbye, if the other way, then continue to communicate in another place: go to the movies, walk in the park. Before a date, talk on the phone or voice from video - this will help better understand the emotions of the interlocutor.

If you think the dating site will solve all your problems, then you are bitterly mistaken. It is just a tool that facilitates the life of people. Indeed, communication on the network eliminates many barriers. Online people are more familiar, the distance between users from different cities and countries is leveled. It is easier for you to find a common language with people, you make new friends, expand our horizons.

However, you do not get rid of bad habits. After clicking the mouse, your complexes will not disappear. You do not need to marry / get married. We asked the expert how many online dating on statistics flows into a long relationship (marriage). The answer at the same time and disappeared, and encouraged:

According to research, the number of dating on the Internet, which has grown into marriage, less than the number of traditional dating. But not critical - in reality, dating develops into a serious relationship about 30% of cases, on the Internet - in 25%.

From myself add that the statistics of divorces from lovers who have acquainted on the Internet are significantly lower. 75% of ordinary couples dissolve marriage in the first 5 years after his conclusion. And people who previously communicated on the network break up only in 42% of cases.

Let me guess. Are you one of those girls who are tired of looking for their narrowed in nightclubs and cafes? Decided to get acquainted with the guys in social networks and the Internet?

Do you get the order blindly blindly, arranged concerned about your fate with friends / relatives? And what if I propose you to find my soul mate without leaving at home?

Yes, you really understood everything - I mean online dating.

You, of course, you can skeptically treat this check. But in fact, this is a very good alternative to classic methods to meet a man for a relationship.

Online dating - it's good!

What could be a better comfortable pastime in a beloved chair with a laptop and a cup of coffee, during which you can have time to "meet" with dozens and even hundreds of potential candidates for your guy?

Agree, in real life, it would take much more time on a similar amount of dates.

Still doubt? But in our time online dating make up a substantial share (20-25%) of all dating, which as a result lead to marriage or serious relationships.

Moreover, oddly enough, not only young people are engaged. People of medium and even elderly are increasingly preferred to meet and "prove the soil" remotely.

Dating on the Internet: What to start?

To get acquainted with a man online, you will need a courage of courage, as well as the ability to analyze information and plan your actions.

A man is also not so easy to start a meeting with a girl on the Internet. I also recommend we are adjusted by the following 11 tips to help start the "right" dating in virtual reality and bring them to.

1. Determine how you want to find candidates for dating

On some dating sites are offered potentially suitable men chosen by comparing the questionnaire. This is the easiest way, although not very reliable, since the selection make program algorithms as a result of a cold calculation.

If you like to choose yourself more, it is necessary to register on sites that provide this opportunity.

1. Are you ready to spend money on dating?

The network exists both free sites for virtual dating sites and with all sorts of paid subscriptions with additional features such as displaying a questionnaire on top places.

"Serious" paid sites, as a rule, are distinguished by the fact that secured men are mainly dominated among their users. You are not looking for?

But the cost of use of their services can range from the level of pocket money to the "salary is not enough."

Therefore, it is necessary to immediately decide whether you can allocate some funds to the search for love on the web or you will be content with free options (by the way, there are sites, where it is all for girls for free, and for men fee).

1. Do not ignore small projects

Of course, the easiest way to register on the most popular and well-known dating sites. But their problem usually lies in the oversaturation of those who want to find their soul mate and fake accounts. There your profile is just getting lost.

Therefore, you can also look at the pair-triple "players" the scale is smaller, but made with the soul.

1. Want to meet - create a convincing, but honest profile

No matter how tempting it is, when filling the profile on the site should not lie about your work, social status, appearance, etc.

The main thing is to learn yourself correctly behave during online communication and make the right choice.

With faith in you and your success,
Yaroslav Samoilov.

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Greetings to you, dear visitors to the site of psychological assistance site
Today, in the heading Psychology of communication, you will learn what online dating From a psychological point of view, and if you are going to find a friend, partner or a soul mate in the network, then you should know how to get acquainted on the InternetAnd at the same time not to be deceived.

How to behave at the Internet acquaintance, in correspondence, chat, skype ... online and when meeting in reality?

The first thing you need to learnIf you are going to get acquainted with the Internet in order to seriously or create a family - this is that in no case you need to start dating or flirting if you suffer from depression or other psycho-emotional disorders.

Second - To create strong trusting relationships in the future, you should not begin online communication with lies ... and at the same time, you should not immediately disclose all the details about yourself (especially if you are not asked about it).

Third - An acquaintance on the Internet is better to start with the correspondence by E-mail (so that there was time to think about what to respond, and if necessary, collect info about a person), then go to chat communication and SMS, and after you appoint an online meeting in Skype ( First you can voice, and then with the video). Further, as you promotion, you can appoint a meeting in reality.

Fourth - Try to communicate more naturally and spontaneously, at the same time, observing some of the rules of decency. Do not try to seem better than you are: do not justify and do not apologize for trifles and on problems that do not personally depend on you ... Do not underestimate and do not oversee your life I position and self-esteem.

Fifth - If you begin to develop an acquaintance in reality, then to clarify something incomprehensible or ambiguous - use direct speech, ask directly ... Remember, if you were invited to a cafe or home, it may certainly mean an intimate continuation by mutual agreement, but this is no one What does not oblige ...

And do not forget that communication should be a congruent (proportionate), i.e. Situations, including emotional, must be completed (by type, how much gave - so much got back - I do not mean finances).

For example, if a young man invites you to a cup of tea to my home, he and you can mean bed. And if you refuse bed after tea, the situation will not be completed ... And this means that you will feel guilty, but he is offended and for her irritation (which, he will try to restrain, and you will apologize) ...

So that it was not, you need to either do not go for tea, or directly say about the implied junction and about your desire (or not desire) ...

In the future, if you are honest and open with each other, you will be able to meet a real acquaintance and you will register a serious relationship, and maybe create a strong family, where the ball rules the real love ...

5 Take quantity

"I would advise you to get acquainted, carefully reviewing all the information on the page of the girl, and at least be original. So that I do not have to answer: "The profile is written, what books I love." (Marina, teacher, 29)

Of course, it is important to carefully choose those who you write. However, no matter how much you look like ("Hi, I also like the work of Joyce and Sasha Gray !!"), half of the respondents will not answer you and do not add to friends. Such is a harsh reality. Here you should not be persistent. Just expand the search range or try other options. Extend the circle of their interests, cling to any coincidence. Sometimes you can add a friend and completely inappropriate to you at first glance a long-legged maiden - in the end, both of them like her legs! Add, add, add - and be sure to answer everyone who answered you with reciprocity. Women usually respond to your requests, hands-having a rather strange logic. Sooner or later you will be lucky: it's not worth a time to lose time.

"I just scored my last name for the sake of interest. The list of namesakes got out. Chose one man in age, wrote him. At first it seemed that we would never cross in life, so they were frank each other. And then it tightened. Communication with him seemed real than all my real life. He lived in Tyumen and I am in Kemerovo. Half a year of daily correspondence, and he invited to Moscow to meet ... here and remained to live. I have been with him for three years, and happy. " (Julia, PR Director, 24)

6 Careful with girlfriends!

"The one-lineage accidentally saw in the internet one young lady from our uni. So this young lady is in the status of my new friend. And they have love. After that, he was excluded from my life. " (Darina, makeup artist, 22)

Never comment on photos and video girls who know each other, do not write simultaneously on their walls and do not send messages to them, especially composed by one template. Otherwise, wait for the message with the question: "How do you know Natasha?" And this is one of those questions on which, how are I fat? "- It's hard to give the right answer.

7 See where you go

Do not rush to knock on the girl if on the avatar she is not alone (especially with a guy), even if you looked at her albums (they need to be browned necessarily, to make a more or less adequate idea of \u200b\u200bthe girl can only be 15-20 photos). You always risk to hear a reasonable question: "And who are you at all?" The same concerns the situation if only the eye is visible on the avatar, or the face, or cannot be seen, or there is a pokemon. Leave the page in bookmarks and come back through a week, maybe it will change the photo on something more solid, then get acquainted.

8 start at "You"

"Interesting young people are trying to get acquainted rarely, mostly it is a category of some cattle-gopniks, and when they refuse to meet even very politely, they write 2 paragraphs with the go, where the most decent word is" rat "." (Dasha, artist, 20)

Girls flattened, and you seem like an adult. (Or she seems to be an adult, if you are so adult.) At the same time, it will be a reason for virtually "to translate attitudes to a new level" by going to you.

9 No "hello, how are you?"

(We decided not to edit this clause, the number of girls in friends with the author. Although for the first phrase, any of MAXIM employees, of course, would come up with something inoriginal!- approx. ed.)

"There was a boy with whom for three months we drank each other with mud, and then they gathered to get married." (Olga, Rescuer, 22)

To speed up the process, copy to the clipboard for nothing that does not bind the phrase: "Hello! Never seen such a wonderful, rare beauty. Of course, you do not care about me. But maybe there is a chance to make friends? " And with a similar phrase knocking together to all. Experience shows that only 0.5% (if to competently select candidates) will send you with the words: "Why do you and Lenka wrote to me and the same?" The answer in 80% of cases will also be the same. Let's say, almost all girls answered the above phrase: "There is always a chance." You can also answer this by a harvested phrase: "I am insanely glad that I have friends in your friends." Next you will be waiting for a retaliatory emoticon. So it is - an invitation to communicate. If you answered at least something on any first stupidity - there really is a chance. Always.

If everything succeeds, ask what fragrances she likes - just what will tell you about your interlocutor a little more, in the future you can give it to her. If she likes floral compositions, pay attention to Eau de Lacoste L.12.12 Magnetic Pour Elle with a note of the African flower and violet - the error is excluded.

10 Do not write "blackless"

"My man wrote that I liked it, but I am not a supporter of online dating, so I answered Khamski and thought that communication would stop. But no! He was correct and always answered my signs literary. It turned out so that I wanted to walk, and was not with anyone. He volunteered to walk with me. The walk was like a date, he came even with flower. Well, then somehow twisted, we together, all cool. " (Alik, 19 years old, student)

Many girls can push your illiteracy. In ordinary life you can hide it, but here the text is something like your clothes. And different "devices" and "I like" - like spots on the shirt. And not even from the mustard, but on the brains that were clearly not conveyed to you. Some networks have a built-in spelling check, do not neglect this tool. If your certificate decorates two in Russian, and "to communicate very much", try especially long messages to check in Word, in a rhelel-checker browser, in Correctly.ru or Orfo.ru
- And as soon as possible to convert to Skype or reality.

11 Do not disappear

"One was very persistent, the next day he proposed to live with him in his apartment. I suggested to start just communicating. After a week, talking on the phone, I will go to the club today with friends "He was very angry and began to say that I would calculate in what club I am, and in general, that he will not drink to me close to me. I did not dare to continue the acquaintance. " (Irinka, 24, Pianist)

During the first two weeks, try to lead an active correspondence. And remember: all this is done in order to meet personally. Virtual acquaintance does not live for a long time. It takes about a month (the relationship is less likely to stand longer), and the connection is fading, you rewrite everything less often, then cease to stop at all. Or the girl begins to respond with short phrases "I have all the rules. And how are you?" It is important to appoint a meeting of a post point. Otherwise, the chance is missed. Although, of course, you should not be too intrusive.

12 Assign the meeting hectare

"I went to check out new posts, and there was one of him, well, somehow the word for the word and for three reports we agreed to meet, I liked it in the photo, and I thought, the meeting would not do anything. I met in the restaurant, I realized that it was quite decent, intelligent ... and began to communicate, he had such a voice, and everyone said that we look so good, and all this ... And then I wrote his wife! Broke up, of course. And yet, it was great! So many emotions! :) "(Alexandra, Actress, 22)

As soon as you understand that the contact is installed, and the girl honestly tells how she is doing, and shares personal - begin to make stacks, they say, you are going to go to the first Badminton activity. One, so as not to displays ... Although, maybe it would be more fun to start, and then suddenly quit after the first classes. Something in this spirit. At some point, after a couple-triple, they ask such a day that she did on this day, and then unobtrusively: "Join", "And let's come together, at the same time and get acquainted," "I think it's time to start communicating in real life." Be sure to ask the phone number and appoint a meeting out loud. This is an extra guarantee that the girl will come at all. Because for many Internet - like Vegas. What happens in the network, there remains there. The word, loud, is already a form of spell.

Keep in mind that soon this article will read and girls too, so hurry to take advantage of our tips before they hang out protection armor from them! If everyone read carefully - one will never stay. At least VKontakte ...

And so, you decided to use all possible ways and find out - how to get acquainted with a girl on the Internet and did not miss an article that will ensure you success? You did everything right, and with regard to all my tips, the acquaintance will be more than successful.

Basic rules of online dating

Let's start, perhaps, with that, without which all your further actions are deprived of meaning - from the rules and the foundations of behavior on the Internet.

Be pupil

You just do not have the right to be vulgar and rude. Forget it will not give you points in the eyes of the lady. At best, she will just think about what he deals with Gopnik, in the worst - with an unbalanced pervert.

Read the same:

Try to cope with literacy

Yes, some girls are also "not a fountain, but you still try to write correctly. After all, if one of 10 will not notice your gross mistakes because of its own illiteracy, then 9 - will definitely turn attention to it. Let them not be correctly arranged all the commas, but the words "devils" or "hachu" are an incomplete spot on your reputation.

If you have a spelling, you are very bad, use special services to check texts. In the end, write your posts in the Word program, copy and insert the dialogue window.

Several tips

If for some reason you can't see the photo of the girl or you can't find out her age (it happens more often on the forums, on dating sites), you can try to use such prompts:

• If the young lady is very capricious and touching - most likely it is beautiful (well, or something believes).
• Coward, a little stupid and quite naive - most likely she is youngster.
• If it starts about work, weekend, lack of free time, earnings, etc. - Most likely, she is already in 20.
• If it starts a conversation about studying - she is either a schoolgirl or a student.
• If you see only pictures of the face on the page of the girl - try to make it completely. You can simply ask her photo in full growth, if you are already easy to communicate. Otherwise, you risk seeing on the first date, not what hoped for.

Tips are banal, but sometimes we forget to pay attention to such trifles and get at all what they drew in your mind.

Get acquainted on the dating site

How to get acquainted with a girl on the Internet? Of course, on a dating site - they are all open here to communicate and acquaintances, they have no guys and they are just waiting for their prince. But on the other hand, there are thousands of active users on popular sites and they do not sit back.

Your task is to stand out from twenty men who wrote your beauty simultaneously with you. What do I need to do:

1. Never write a girl what could write and everyone else. That is: "You are beautiful, let's get acquainted" not ride. And most likely that 15 people from those 20 just so they will write. Look at her profile and write something inherent only to her.
2. If the site is arranged so that messages are transmitted to indicate the topic, always do it beautiful.
3. If possible, write to girls who "online" - so you will immediately see the result if it does not want to continue communication.

Girl: « Marina, Brunette, 17 years old, Pedagogical School Student "

Letter:

Subject: "The most charming girl of the Pedagogical School"

Then I would like to tell about myself: My name is Oleg, I am engaged in programming, and in my free time I prefer an active rest. Soon I will be 22 years old and I would like to meet a wonderful girl with which you can go on an interesting trip. ".

1. From the written letter follows the second rule: the message on the dating site should not be too short. You have to make the girl read it and think about you. Easy 25th "Hi" risks even unnoticed. But a long interesting letter must be standing out against the background of banal single-catching messages.
2. You will not hurt the romanticism and mystery. For example, in communication do not hesitate to make strange actions: write that you invite it to a slow dance. In the following posts, you can write it the name of a beautiful slow song that she should listen.

Experiment + example

For the sake of the experiment, 10 girls were chosen, the introduction was the same, and the answers were not particularly different. The goal is to take a phone number.

I: Hi, Love is looking for?)
She: maybe / just communicate / of course / no
I: It is unlikely that you can find someone on this site, only all sorts offered nonsense ...
She: exactly / this is yes / blah blah blah
I: I hope you are a good girl, don't you write anything bad?))
She: No / No, I'm good / do not write ...
I: Honestly, did not go to such sites before, apparently no longer go, after what they write here. Let's talk better by phone 2 minutes. Write the number)

Result:

• 2 wrote their number after the last message;
• 4 wrote a number after several messages, basically I did a compliment and said that he was in a hurry;
• 3 continued the conversation, and later gave a number (banal conversation about the interests + intrigue);
• 1 refused to give the phone and the conversation did not receive continuation

The dialogue is a little trimmed, but the essence of the correspondence is clear, the psychology of such a dating will be revealed in the following articles, if you are interested, unsubscribe in the comments.

How to meet a girl in VKontakte

This site is known to you not at all and you probably got a lot of failures. I want to warn you what it will continue further. According to statistics, even with the right approach, the girls in VC do not respond to reports of 45-50% of cases. Such severe truth. But if you act wrong, you can lose those 50% of girls who answer.

How to learn

To understand how to get acquainted on the Internet - you need to develop an approach. So, in order:

1. You throw off the girls who will train. Choose absolutely any city and put on the page the same. You need to gain experience before writing a girl who really like, and those with which you will communicate - even help the advice!
2. Next, you choose 10 normal, not "fashionable", not "scary", and simple pretty girls "Online", perhaps with cockroaches - for training well.
3. You write to all the same message with an individual character for each of the contenders. below ↓
4. Let's call it - an exercise. It is necessary to repeat it until 8 out of 10 girls continue with you a dialogue. Once a week enough.

Thanks to such training, your page will fill with interesting girls who can ask the Council, and you will acquire confidence in your abilities and can easily develop a dialogue.

Your task:

1. to work out a specific model of communication inherent in you on the Internet;
2. learn how to determine which message is suitable for a certain type of girls;
3. be able to develop a dialogue to the final completion of it or your goal;

It is important to have a goal of communication with a girl, Ie put the goal and in various ways to finish it, otherwise you will spend the time of washes.

Everything should be perfect - 6 stages of preparation

If you have taken into account the rules, put a good photo on Avatar and filled my page with suitable information, do not rush to relax:

Step number 1. Square extra albums

If you managed to lay out a photo from a rapid boo in a network, leave romantic photos with a former girl, etc. - Hurry them. You have to have a perfect profile: Photos at the moments of your success at work, photo in the company of your friends (adequate, sober ...), photo in nature, travel, at a concert, etc. Hide everything compromising where far away - leave what characterizes you from the best side.

The same applies to vulgar video, vulgar idiotic songs, subscriptions for porn groups, etc.

Step number 2. Clean comments

Work out the habit to erase comments that reveal all your cards. Type records "Zai, yesterday was very good" you need to delete immediately (if you do not stop on one girl).

Step number 3. Recognize fake

In order not to waste time in vain on the pages and deceptions, learn to recognize them immediately. If you see that everything is too perfect in the girl or it has very little photos, in addition to avatar - it can be a fake. You need to take her photo, download it in search by pictures from Google and see what else the questionnaires and on which sites it is encountered this image. If you see it on various sex sites, etc. - it's fake.

You should alert the imbalance between comments in a photo and the number of friends. Also, fake often over 1000 friends, and the page is created relatively recently.

Step number 4. Find the "right" girls

Your task is to find the girl with which you have something in common. According to statistics and own experience, ordinary compliments are exhausted here, but common interests act very well. Come in groups of your favorite music teams, open a list of participants and look for pretty girls there. So from the first messages you will have a topic for conversation - "She also loves the Nirvana group too."

• The same applies to groups dedicated to your favorite films, serials, books, writers, places, travel, etc.
• If you do not fond of anything at all - we will find common interests in it. Do it have beautiful legs and do you like them? Most likely, she also souls her long legs. What is not a topic for conversation?
• You can search for girls with the same name as you. First pretend what you think you are relatives. Then simply translate it into the usual interesting communication.

In short, we produce an effective tactics, and not just add whom it fell.

Step number 5. Be Bdittelen

You will have to add a huge number of girls to friends, among which girlfriends may be met. But you are from us "Not a Noble Lovelace, but a simple good guy who decided to meet a beautiful girl," so you can't fall to fall. As soon as you enter the girl's page and you see that you have in common friends, with whom you are 5 minutes ago nicely communicated - run from there.

But if you have common friends who do not concern the process of your hunting for girls - it will only play in a plus. When girls see common friends, it seems to them that you are already familiar with that you can trust, etc.

Step number 6. Do not disappear

Be ready for the fact that about two weeks you have to behave with the girl correspondence. If you suddenly disappear for a week - everything can get out of control. Therefore, do not be accepted through Chur, writing to her all day. But at the same time do not lose long.

Do pauses between messages, but the girl should not think that you are brake and extrude the answer.

The most important thing is the first message to the girl

All sites say to you that the first message in VC is the most important part of your dating. But I will express another opinion: if you have an awesome account, looking at which the girl thinks "and he is cool" - 85% of the work done. In this case, it is enough for your first message to be simple.

1. Do not write in your first message the offer to have sex, no matter how it has been entrusted.
2. Do not write just "hello," even if you enable this by the phrase "how are you doing." The girls almost never respond to such messages. You must come up with such a phrase that will entail the development of the conversation.
3. Do not be too impudent: "Theses, today you go with me on a date."
4. You do not need to be too sweet, from the first messages, talking about how you dream of getting her on a date, so that she sticks you, etc.
5. With compliments, too, be quieter: Purchased, amazing, great - it is already too for the first message.
6. When adding as a friend, know what you do this and give a girl to know about it.

Here are examples of how to start communication:

• You just write: "I know something about you."She will definitely want to know what you know. In response, you can write about her what you noticed by studying her page, and what you yourself liked in it.
• "When I saw your photo, I was just amazed how many photoshop can make."This phrase hooked her pride and makes pay attention to your message. Most likely she will answer that her photo is natural and also she looks in real life.
• "Hello. Looks like an energetic girl. What sports do? "
• "I noticed that you play tennis. How long have you been training? "

The last two phrases can have hundreds of options. It is enough for you to understand what the girl is interested in and come up with a message about this. .

It is important that the first message provoked a girl to answer you, that is, you must ask a question at the end of the monologue!

• "Hello. You seek me an attractive girl. Yes, and I'm not bad. We just destroyed to meet, what do you think? ".

It sounds atypically and a bit defiantly. You do not cover it with compliments, increasing her self-esteem for the transcendant level. But at the same time you say that she is interested. You yourself are also kept adequate, showing that she will get a lot of good from you. From the example you can see that you mocked her non-standard behavior, but it's good! Next you can develop a dialogue, because the girl is already ready to communicate.

If you have a good sense of humor - show her, and not write "You know, I have a great sense of humor." You can joke and even push it - the girl it will only raise the mood. But always control what you say: in the extreme case, your jokes and routines can be really offended. " You can even start your dialogue with some joke, for example: "It's not you yesterday in the supermarket ate all the tangerines?Continued: It seems like a similar girl was also so cute ".

In general, a joke can be approached for the first message, but not just sharing and not offensive. You do not need to immediately sleep with its compliments or show what you are super guy, they say, "as they said, so it will be." Just be myself, communicate naturally and easily, letting know about your interest, but at the same time without showing that you started to embed it at first sight in the photo.

I want to tell you that even this hated "hello" can work if you fully fit into her framework. That is, if on your page she found a photo of an attractive young man for her, and then still reinforced this opinion by reading the information on the wall - she will answer even on the usual greeting. That is why there are no 100% techniques, phrases and methods. You can only stay with yourself and not to do nonsense in communication, having received the desired thus desired, and using our advice will understand how easy it is to get on the Internet.

If you have any suggestions or real examples of your success on the Internet - write them in the comments, everyone will be very interesting to complement their knowledge.